Inversions: Love
Signal 071. We think we love people and are loved by them. We believe we love material things like diamonds, our car, our home, etc.. Inversed, we just love the way the energy makes us feel.
The stone sits on a black mirror.
A man leans over the mirror, and the woman beside him sits with anticipation, and something rises through her chest and into her throat, warm and fast and complete, and says, “I love it.” And she means it with her full heart. She calls it love for the beauty and the sparkle, or love for the man who ‘knows her so well,’ or love for the life the two of them are about to begin together.
What she experienced actually feels real, because it is what we have been trained to experience.
The same exchange happens at the purchase of a first home, in the passenger seat of a new car, in the early weeks of a romance when the body floods and we say we have fallen in love, as though love were a place outside us and we literally fell into it by accident. (sidebar: I have a slightly different framing now, I chose it with intention, or I don’t do it. Falling is for people who are not whole in themselves.)
And then we are comfortably in the performance of our life, one that we fully believe we have agency over and we have chosen. Without question, without consideration for anything else, including the low-grade humming we might feel in our body, aches, mild depression, sadness, concern, a belief that we can truly quiet that emotion and stay in the box… forever.
The idea of forever is interesting. We choose to believe that change doesn’t happen. That forever is the 80-100 years of this lifetime, or that our partner loves us more than they love themselves, and would do anything for us. The love we have defined in modern 21st-century terms is: Love is a strong positive feeling directed at another person, a private bond between two separate selves, confirmed when the feeling is returned.
Disclaimer: What I am about to share is very disorienting, and I caution you to brace yourself and also open your body to feeling into this.
Love is not a feeling that passes between two separate people. Love is the single field recognizing itself, and the only love there is is love of yourself and of the field you are within. It can only be within yourself.
I am a bridge. I have been there on both sides. I have experienced it all, and right now I am giving you, my wonderful reader of all walks of life, the biggest hug. Because I know you have been in a lot of pain in your life because of this fake belief of love. We all have.
I hope you love yourself. I hope you know what it feels like to wake up, look in the mirror, and say, “I am the entire universe inside my soul. I am the greatest love of my life. I will do everything required to see me shine.” It is so hard to get there and so many of us struggle. It’s real. I am here and happy to connect at any moment. And Embodied Legacy is all about starting from a place of full, whole love for yourself.
The Inversion
Our society tells us that love is a transaction between separate beings, and that it lands inside of ‘things’ and we cannot be possibly loved if we do not do the things required to be loved: wax the brows and the bikini, have the polished nails, drive the fancy car, go to the right restaurants, belong to the right clubs, wear the right clothes. Without those things, we do not have the ability to receive love, and we are unworthy (within our culture). This is actually ingrained in our society by Dr. John B. Watson and his behaviorist mindset established in 1913.
So here is what we do: We acquire a partner, a pet, a house, and we say that we love each of them… we LOVE our partner, we LOVE our house, we LOVE our pet. Beneath the transaction sits a simpler experience playing out like a symphony. Energy moves through the body, the movement registers as aliveness, and we love the aliveness. The person or thing is the occasion. The current belongs to us alone, and so we really welcome and love the energy of the experience of how it makes us feel.
The event is structural, and it is the same for everybody. We live inside a single field, one biofield shared across every body within it, and inside a single field, there is no outside to send love toward. There is only the field recognizing itself. To love another is to meet a fraction of yourself wearing a different face. A child is the clearest case, a literal fraction of the self walking around in its own body, and the love we feel for a child is the self loving its own continuation. A partner carries a percentage of us, and what we love in a partner is the experience of our own capacity, switched on in their presence.
Years ago, a fight with a partner left me with a vision of a room full of fractals, pieces of myself scattered across the room, and I understood something in that moment that I have not been able to unlearn since. The pieces were mine. No one was coming to gather them, and the gathering was my own work, the way it had quietly always been. I had spent the relationship waiting to be made whole by him, and that was never once his to do. He was my twin flame and tonight I finally and completely surrendered to what that actually means for our collective and continued journey (so much gratitude to Kundalini Healing for her gifts).
There is no “person” that belongs to you. There is no love of your life. There is no human being who will ever be able to care for you or love you more than you. There is only you, loving yourself in whole and complete form, and then magnetizing the world of mirrors around you of exactly what you need to see.
And when you finally realize that this reorganization is happening, you will be met with a world of people at your frequency. But you have to get there first so the right mirrors attract and show you the real you.
“There is nothing here, but love of self, and every face you have ever loved was a fraction of that self, met and recognized in the field you share.” —Rache Brand
The Inversions we live inside, within the Western world, are a template trained into the body to locate its own current within something that could be sold, and to wait for love to arrive from the outside rather than recognize it already moving within. The diamond is the purest expression of the technique. It is a stone engineered to carry a feeling the buyer brought as a reflection of your shimmer into the room.
Once we believe the feeling belongs to the other, we begin to bargain for it. We compromise, we shrink the truth of what we want, we make the sacrifice and call the sacrifice devotion. The body keeps a separate ledger, and the body is the honest one.
When love is sought outside the body, the search leaves a record, and the record is written in symptoms. The body reports the misalignment long before the mind agrees to read it.
Underneath every reading sits the generative layer, the Sorce Code, the field the visible pattern is resting on. Love is the field’s first principle, and the algorithm violates it at the root.
The Reorientation
Love is where the separation is felt first, earlier than money and earlier than politics, because it is the first place a person learns to wait for something essential to arrive from elsewhere. Biography becomes biology. The waiting becomes a wound, the wound organizes a body, and the body grows a life arranged around being chosen.
Love yourself first and love yourself whole, and the whole field is loved in the same motion, because you are made of the field and the field is made of selves. From that grounding, the ask of others changes: it stops being a plea to be chosen and becomes an invitation to move alongside, and the people who belong in your field arrange themselves around the gift you came to carry.
Every condition in this series resolves at one layer, the layer of consciousness, the place where we either remember the single field or forget it. Love is the memory. Everything sold to us as love is the forgetting, dressed for the black velvet counter and the diamond sparkles.
With tremendous LOVE for myself hoping you are the direct mirror I receive,
Rache
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References
Every factual claim in this Signal is documented below. The historical record is cited to primary and scholarly sources, and the science to peer reviewed and field defining work.
THE SINGLE FIELD
Rubik, B., Muehsam, D., Hammerschlag, R., and Jain, S. (2015). Biofield Science and Healing: History, Terminology, and Concepts. Global Advances in Health and Medicine, 4 (supplement), 8 to 14. A National Institutes of Health panel introduced the term biofield in 1992 to name a field that surrounds and permeates the living body. This Signal treats that single field as the ground in which love recognises itself. journals.sagepub.com
THE BODY AS WITNESS
van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking. The body registers and stores what the mind explains away.
Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self Regulation. W. W. Norton. The nervous system reads safety and threat below awareness, which grounds the reading of symptom as direction.
Maté, G. (2003). When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress. Knopf Canada. Self suppression and chronic over giving carry a measurable physiological cost.
BIOGRAPHY BECOMES BIOLOGY
Myss, C. (1996). Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing. Harmony Books. Source of the principle that biography becomes biology, and of the reading that all is one and that love is a single field rather than a transaction. en.wikipedia.org
THE ENGINEERED SUBSTITUTE
Watson, J. B. (1924). Behaviorism. The People’s Institute Publishing Company. The program of predicting and controlling behaviour through conditioning.
Buckley, K. W. (1989). Mechanical Man: John Broadus Watson and the Beginnings of Behaviorism. Guilford Press. After leaving Johns Hopkins in 1920, Watson joined the J. Walter Thompson agency under Stanley Resor and applied conditioning to consumer behaviour, favouring emotional appeals over rational ones. researchgate.net
Bernays, E. (1928). Propaganda. Horace Liveright. The contemporaneous blueprint for the deliberate shaping of public desire.
Epstein, E. J. (1982, February). Have You Ever Tried to Sell a Diamond? The Atlantic. De Beers and the N. W. Ayer agency manufactured demand for the diamond engagement ring, a tradition that did not exist in America before the campaign that ran from 1938 through 1947. theatlantic.com
Hi Rache! I’ve been thinking about this topic quite a bit lately, how we can never “give” love to another since it’s literally just an energy that we feel inside our bodies. But I do think of others as expansive forces. When I interact with certain people in my life, the love or anger or annoyance in my body expands (or contracts), and while I don’t think we can ever “love another,” I really desire a romantic partnership that expands my capacity for love. So I guess what I’m trying to say is that there’s benefit in having an “external figure” to expand my inner capacity for love.
On a slightly different note, I view all of life simply as expansion of what’s possible—the extreme irritation I felt on Sunday when visiting an aunt, the boredom I felt at a recent party, the joy I felt returning to my Monday morning routine—yes, I allow myself to feel these emotions in the moment, but they all get logged as “expansion” once they pass. I think love for me might be the same; I can allow myself the feeling of ~being in love~, but then understand that the feeling of love circulating in my body is just a form of expansion (expansion potentially being the life force witnessing all the ways life can be lived/experienced).
This turned out rather long, but I recently discovered your essays and am reading as many as I can tonight! I hold much of the same understanding that you write about!